To My Book Clubs: Sorry It Took So Long!

Jae and LaptopThe Forever and a Day Book Club Discussion Guide is now available! I must sincerely apologize for taking so long to put it up. My life has been a whirlwind the  last few months. In addition to great questions to help fuel your discussion, I put in a special interview with the author (That’s me!)  to answer those burning questions like, “Is this really the end of the Someday series?”  I even let you guys know what the title of my next book is! Check it out! I am available for book club discussions in person, via phone and or Skype.

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Forever and a Day Discussion Guide

I Second That Steve Harvey!

A recent Strawberry Letter embraced the topic of celibacy on The Steve Harvey Morning Show. He and Shirley Strawberry gave some excellent advice. I especially love the way Steve broke down that the way the writer was operating was detrimental to her desire to find the right man. If I may add my two cents…. celibacy shouldn’t feel like a death sentence. Yes, it gets hard at times. Yet, the period in your life when you are not getting it in is a time for self-reflection, meditation, and fellowship with God. Essentially, you have given yourself to God. If you can’t give God you cheerfully then you really need to re-examine your reasons for being celibate. I personally am a very happy, and I am experiencing more peace than I ever have as a single woman. I only date men who respect my views and are worth my time. You can save yourself a lot of heartache that way.

Listen to their commentary here http://www.v103.com/pages/sh.html?article=10586920

Jae Henderson is an author, motivational speaker and voice over artist. Her inspirational romances Someday and Someday, Too encourage responsible dating and a love of God. They can be purchased in fine bookstores everywhere and online.

Reflections of the Beginning

As I sit here going over edits for the final book in the Someday Trilogy, Forever and a Day, I am reminded of why I wrote the first book, Someday. Thank you to everyone who has traveled with me through this journey of literary self-discovery. I hope you have enjoyed my progression.

Shortly after I released Someday, I penned a letter to my readers explaining why I wrote it. I thought it was worth another look.

 

FROM THE DESK OF JAE HENDERSON

I was hesitant to write this book. Although it is fiction, people often intertwine the author with the main characters. I was afraid that if I wrote a book where the main characters were celibate someone would try to make me the poster child for celibacy, put me inside a box or worse—on a pedestal. I was afraid that if I accepted one of those roles and then publicly faltered that my weakness would cause someone else stumble in their Christian walk. But God told me that it wasn’t about me, or what others would think of me because He had a message for me to relay. This book is my humble attempt to do so. I call my brand of fiction moral messaging, and this is the first of many moral messages. Every literary picture I paint is meant to plant seeds of wisdom in order to allow self-examination through God’s word to take root. We all have room for improvement.

What makes me qualified to write this book is the fact that I am a Christian and beautifully human. I’ve lived a life of celibacy successfully and unsuccessfully. And whether I was practicing abstinence or sexually active, God still showed me His love, grace, and mercy each day. Just like so many young women, I am striving daily to be the woman He created me to be. I am grateful for His unconditional love, and He has commissioned me to share it with others through my writing. He loves you the same way.

For most of my life I have been considered a “good girl,” known for doing what my family expected of me and what thus saith the Lord. Then, there came was a point where I tired of being “Ms. Goodie Two Shoes” or a “Holy Roller” because it seemed like everyone was enjoying life more than I was. I decided to try things the world’s way adopting an “if it feels good do it” philosophy. I soon realized that life wasn’t for me. I found out the hard way that my heart is directly connected to my body and giving myself to someone who had no or very little feelings for me only left me empty with meaningless sexual experiences to talk about. If I had the misfortune of developing feelings for my partner I also had the scars of heart ache, pain, disappointment and sometimes even embarrassment to show for my efforts. I discovered that I am 100 percent woman –full of heart and emotion and by refusing to acknowledge that I was abusing the part of me that makes me who I am.

Your morals are entwined into the very fabric of who you are. I encourage you to embrace them and not run from them. I came to the conclusion that I like being the good girl, and the Holy Spirit doesn’t seem like a bad selection to roll with. Yet and still, I’m not perfect. I have made and will make mistakes but I serve the perfect One.

I wrote this book to encourage those who were also raised with the knowledge that our bodies are precious and they are not to be given to anyone and everyone. To us, sex is more than a recreational activity. This book is for those who have tired of the world feeding us lies that the way to get a man is to perform your best sexual tricks as soon as you meet him. Perhaps you have heard that we are missing out on a whole lot of fun or we are selling ourselves short by not using our innermost parts to entice others for personal gain. Some of us still believe that our bodies are meant to be shared with someone we possess deep affection for and who cares for us deeply as well. Some of us are wise enough to know that real love transcends the physical and that true intimacy is obtained when two people’s minds and hearts connect and what happens physically can be a beautiful expression of that connection. This book is for those who realize that some things can’t be rushed and whether you are waiting to get to the altar or waiting for him to take the time to truly get to know you—you are worth waiting for. This book is also for those who want to live a Christian life but get weary at times and need a little encouragement. And its for those who just love a good love story. You’ll find one within Someday.

Many people have asked me if my main female character, Tee, is really Jae. I must admit that a few of my main character’s experiences are loosely based on my own, but she is not me. As the story evolved, Tee began to take on a life of her own, carve out her own place in her world and take ownership of it. She is her own woman. You’ll find out why I love her so much as her story unfolds.

Now, if you happen to be like Tee, still waiting for your prince and at times it seems that he may never arrive know that God has not forgotten you and He will answer your prayer SOMEDAY. You must be patient as He carefully unfolds His master plan for your life. I’m sure it’s greater than you could have ever imagined. You are His child, and He loves you that much. I pray that you enjoy my first novel. Be blessed!

Jae