Are you a GOOD Woman? Do you know a GOOD Woman? Many of you know that my trilogy Someday, Someday, Too and Forever and a Day fall under the I’m A Good Woman series. Well, did you know that there is IGW apparel as well? Make a statement without saying a word with the bold IGW logo on soft beautiful t-shirts, tank tops, underwear, pajamas and totes. All you need to do is go to my online store and place an order. I know they’ll look good on you!!! Find it here.
I am a firm believer that you should celebrate the accomplishments and special moments in your life. You only live once and you don’t get those moments back. That is why I am hosting THE BOOK LAUNCH to celebrate the paperback release of “Things Every Good Woman Should Know Volume 1”. It is also to say thank you to my amazing readers who have helped to make my dream of becoming a published author come true. It is free and open to the public. So, if you are in the Memphis, TN area please feel free to come by.
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Saturday, November 1, 2014
6980 Winchester Rd.
Memphis, TN 38115
11:30 a.m. – 2:00 p.m.
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I never expected to bury my mother at only 67 years of age. My grandmother lived well into her 90’s and my mother’s older siblings are now in their 70’s and 80’s. I expected those longevity genes to impact her as well. However, I didn’t factor in that because my mother refused to go to a doctor an undiagnosed illness could have been ravaging her organs and that is exactly what happened. I realized that something was seriously wrong when she started complaining of sight problems. Yet, because of my mother’s mental illness, which she didn’t acknowledge, she continued to refuse to see a doctor. I begged, I pleaded, I cried and she would not budge. My uncles and I then took it upon ourselves to take her to court and have her declared mentally incompetent. I was not going to stand by and let her neglect herself to death without a fight! Once I was granted conservatorship, which is basically guardianship for adults, I was able to get her to a doctor whether she wanted to go or not. However, the damage was already done and it was massive. My mother was diagnosed with full kidney failure and congestive heart failure. She began taking medication to regulate her heart and began dialysis. She did improve but she was much weaker than before and had to use a walker to get around, she was now legally blind and could no longer control her bowels. I had joined the ranks of thousands of other adults who play the role of caregiver to their ill or aging parents. I was the chauffeur, cook (although I ended up hiring one because she didn’t like my cooking), maid, distributor of medicine, and I had the final decision over all medical treatments. I applied for government programs that offered us additional assistance and THANK GOD we were approved. I was/am my mother’s only child so this weight fell on me. Was it hard? Yes, but what was harder was watching my mother deteriorate right before my eyes. Yet, I was dedicated to the cause and I would still be doing it, if it were up to me. I miss my mother madly. Making sure that she was properly cared for and knew that she was loved during a time that had to be harder for her than it ever was for me is undoubtedly the greatest accomplishment of my life. As Drake said, “They don’t give no awards for that!” But I don’t need or want one. Knowing that I did the best you could is its own reward. I was holding my mother when she took her last breath, and I’d like to think that provided some comfort as she went to meet her maker.
According to an article in The Huffington Post, the number of adults taking care of aging parents has tripled in the past 15 years, and a full 25 percent of grown children are helping their parents by providing either personal care or financial assistance. It is estimated that that there are 10 million adult children older than 50 caring for their parents but I didn’t fall into that category and neither do several of my friends. We are dealing with it at an earlier age, our 30’s and 40’s. The pivotal years of our careers and some of us are caring for our own children as well. Add us in, along with the people caring for those other than their parents and the Family Caregiver Alliance estimates that 65.7 million caregivers make up 29 percent of the U.S. adult population providing care to someone who is ill, disabled or aged. Actually, that is why I am writing this blog. The current www.imagoodwoman.com “This Good Woman” feature Brandee Evans’ mother, Diana Harrington, is battling Multiple Sclerosis (MS) and Alzheimer’s. She is currently in a rehabilitation center to assist her with the effects of her MS. Brandee and her brother have started a Go Fund Me campaign to help her get the treatment and care she needs. They have applied for Choices, which is a government funded program (in the state of Tennessee) that pays for licensed caregivers to come in the home to assist with your loved one’s, meal preparation, upkeep of the home, etc. I am praying that she is accepted. My heart goes out to all of them.
It is not easy being a caregiver. It can be mentally, emotionally and financially draining. Brandee is a professional dancer and choreographer and several of her colleagues are teaching workshops this month to help her raise funds. The first is Sunday, August 10th in Los Angeles and the other is in Atlanta on Saturday, August 16th (See the flyers above and below for details). If you are able to assist, by attending the workshop or making a donation, I ask that you do. This could be you and your family member one day, and I know you would want someone to assist you as you seek to take care of those you love. Although, I suggest you pray that it never is.
Click here to read more about Brandee.
P.S.–My experience was the premise for one of my stories in my newest book, Things Every Good Woman Should Know.” In Take Care of Those You Love, I wanted to stress the importance of caring for the people who cared for us.Check it out here.
A few years ago, I started website/blog to motivate women to accomplish their dreams. It featured women and men who are doing amazing things in hopes of encouraging others to do the same. I wanted it to create a kind of “If they can do it, I can too” feeling among my readers. I am proud to say that I had a great response but the busier I became with other things the less I focused on the site. Well, I recently retooled it, giving it a sleeker, simpler look and relaunched it. Please take a look, www.imagoodwoman.com. It will continue to feature wonderful women and men as well as give a few suggestions about things to do, music, products, and foods I recommend you try. I also put my own special brand of commentary on current events and pop culture. It will even feature a few guest bloggers who want to help me inform, encourage, motivate, and inspire women to be the best they can be. Check it out for yourself and if you have an idea for the site, feel free to reach out to me.
The first woman in the This Good Woman section is Brandee Evans. This stellar choreographer is readying herself for world domination with her Hip Hop In Heels dance classes. They are designed to showcase your shoe game while instilling confidence and teaching you some sexy moves you will definitely want to show your man or just do in the mirror over and over again until you’re tired.
When Brandee saw the article, she posted the graphic above on her Instagram page. Thanks Brandee and you are very welcome! Reach for the stars ladies!