Behind the Post: Good Cry, Strong Drink, Hot Bath

Behind the Post is where I tell you the story behind a post I put on social media. I agree to be totally transparent.

A good cry, a strong drink, and a hot bath but not necessarily in that order. #noworriesiwilllive #imisshermadly
Posted on FB April 8, 2014

Memphis Stars MagazineI was elated when I say the beautiful profile of me and my books in Memphis Stars Magazine. I picked up three copies. I put a post on Facebook of me reading one. I was so proud. Unfortunately, it was short-lived.  When I pulled into the garage of my home and the stark reality hit me AGAIN that my mother wasn’t there and she wouldn’t ever be again I lost it. I sat in my car and cried like I was two for at least 15 minutes. She was usually one of the people I shared my successes with. It was a bittersweet moment, indeed. Being single with no kids has many benefits, but it also has its drawback. My mother helped fill the void that not having a family to greet you when you get home can have. I can no longer run next door to her house and show her my articles. No one is there. Since she’s been gone, our homes have been pretty quiet …sometimes a little too quiet. I’m not looking for sympathy here, I’m just stating the realities of the life I live. I’m a big girl. Life isn’t always going to be roses, and I realize that. I just try to remember that it’s the manure that provides the roses with nutrients and allows them to grow up beautiful and strong. I have no right to wallow in self-pity. I’m not the first person to lose someone they love, nor will I be the last. Besides, I’ve always thought that large amounts of self-pity was pathetic, and I am anything but pathetic. But it’s always okay to take a moment and regroup. A good cry, a strong drink, and a hot bath was just what a needed to help me compose myself and refocus. I felt better afterward, and that’s what matters.

Thanks to Memphis Stars for the article, it is really good and truly represents my writing. My mother would have enjoyed it. If you live in Memphis, you can pick up a copy at any Kroger grocery store.

Keep living, laughing, and loving……

I promise my next blog will be more upbeat.

Hello Pain

Mommy and me2Hello Pain:

I know you’re here. Since the passing of my mother, you’ve been with me every day. Some days you don’t hurt so much and other days you cripple me to the point of temporary paralysis and tears. I just want to let you know that you won’t stop me. Actually, you are motivating me. Because I know my mother wouldn’t want me to let you ruin what I’ve worked so hard to build because of the sadness that her absence creates, I am pushing forward. I am letting you propel me to write from a place I’ve never written before. Every tear I cry is a testimony that shouts I am still alive and open to the blessings God has stored up for me. My experiences deserve to be documented. Maybe I’ll get a bestseller out of it. But believe me when I say you won’t get the best of me! I have amazing friends and family who are surrounding me with love and praying for me. Along with my Heavenly Father, they give me strength. So pain, you don’t have to vacate the premises but you do have to get the hell out of the way. I’ve got better things to do than lie in the bed all day and cry.

Sincerely,

My Mother’s Daughter

P.S. As long as you’re hanging around you could at least make yourself useful and fix me a sammich or something!

February 1st Is A GREAT Day!

As you know, I have a new ebook coming out and it will go live on Amazon.com and Barnesandnoble.com on February 1st. Also on that day I will be at an event with some other phenomenal authors. If you are in the Memphis, TN area please come by and fellowship with us.

R.A.R.E. Book Club 4th Annual Tea & Social

Come out to meet and greet other book clubs, converse with one another, and your favorite authors. February 1, 2014 from 1:00pm – 3:00pm Southaven Public Library 8554 Northwest Dr. Southaven, MS. 38672. Author Kellye Alston, Author Pat Tucker, Author Earl Sewell, Author Jae Henderson and  Author Rhonda Holloway will be in attendance. Refreshments will be served.

If you are not familiar with “Things Every Good Woman Should Know, Volume 1”, here is the synopsis.

THGWSK_Vol_1_Cover_Discussion_smallIf you could stop a woman from making the same mistakes you did would you—whether it be in love, friendships, profession, finances, or health. In “Things Every Good Woman Should Know, Volume 1”  Jae Henderson has crafted six short inspirational stories designed to educate women on the importance of carefully considering your options when traveling through this  journey we call life.  Each character allows you to peek into their lives and experience the joys and the pains of love, sex, success, family, and more. These stories could be described as fables for adults. Just like the ones you read as children, except with adult content and real drama. You are invited to learn the moral of each story that will surely nourish the spirit and strengthen the soul.

You Are Beautiful

Take Care of Those You Love

Sex Is More Than Just Sex

Mentorship is Mandatory

Success Is the Best Revenge

You Reap What You Sow

Each story is firmly rooted in Biblical principles and is jam packed with exciting life-altering situations and life-applicable teachings. Once again, demonstrating that God is good. He may not always keep you from falling, but He can arrange for you to make a soft landing. Be inspired today!

Would you like to read an excerpt from the first short story in the book? It’s entitled You Are Beautiful. TEGWSK_Vol_1_You_Are_Beautiful_Excerpt.

I Choose To Be Happy

Jae and Laptop

A Few Words of Wisdom

If you’re happy and you know it clap you’re hands! Clap! Clap!
We’ve all heard people say, “I could complain but nobody wants to hear it anyway.”  Well,  for the most part it’s true. However, there is a difference between  complaining and venting. Occasionally, we all need to release our frustrations, a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen.  We all have those days when we wonder “Why Me?” and “What did I  do to deserve this?” When life is unfair, we run to our friends,  significant other or family with our woe is me stories. After we’ve  told the story, cried our eyes out and received a few “I’m so sorry to hear  thats” and possibly some good advice, we have to ask ourselves what’s  next? Are we going to wallow in self pity? As the dearly departed Whitney Houston would have said, “Hell to  the Naw!” You pick your behind up and attack that situation like it just  tried to run off with your new Michael Kors purse. If you can fix it, get to fixin’. If you can’t, fix your attitude.
One of the worst states I know to be in is helplessness. That’s the  state of being where no matter what you say or do you can’t change the situation or the outcome even if it’s causing you stress and/or pain. Situations such as incurable  illness, death of a loved one, irreconcilable break ups and taxes normally fall in  that category. Those are often the times you have to resolve to be happy in spite of your  circumstances. One way to do this is to count your blessings. It’s quite easy to get caught up in what’s going wrong and  forget about what’s going right.   I used to be a chronic complainer. I disliked my life, my body, the  direction my career was going and being single. I’m sure I was a  freakin’ joy to be around. I’m glad I have a big sister who’s not afraid  to tell me to grow up and shut up. I’m even more glad that I listened to her. Your perception truly does influence your attitude and your quality of life. I am always amazed  by people who are facing dire situations as big as mountains who don’t  complain and keep a smile on their faces. However,  their secret is simple, they are happy because they choose to be.
Try this  little exercise and make a list of at least 10 things you are grateful for. They  can be big or small. The point is that they bring you joy or add value to your life! Here are  mine…..

  1. A Heavenly Father who cares
  2. Good health and mental stability
  3. A home
  4. Amazing family and friends who love me
  5. Gainful employment that I enjoy
  6. A great sense of humor      (Laughter makes so many situations easier to bear)
  7. A closet full of cute shoes
  8. The ability to write and encourage others
  9. The ability to continue to love even after being hurt
  10. Eyes that allow me to see the beauty that surrounds me each day
  11. Strength to withstand tough times

Count your own blessings, write them down and post them where you can see them as a constant reminder of how good you actually have it. I’ve decided to be happy no matter what obstacles life throws my way. Won’t you join me? You too are truly blessed!
Until next time…..

Jae Henderson 

I’m Going On Tour!

ABlog_Tourll next week I will be on a virtual book tour. Each day I’ll tell you where to find me. It’ kicks off Monday!

Please join Diva as she chats it up with Author Jae Henderson on Monday, July 15th at 8pm EST. Please call in to offer support or ask questions at (914) 338-1494 or join us in the chat room at:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/divasliteraryworld/2013/07/16/diva-chats-with-author-jae-henderson

In the meantime, please enjoy this “In the Chat Chair” interview I did with author Nikki Walker. http://nikeezbookstore.wordpress.com/author-jae-henderson-is-in-my-chat-chair/

Download My Latest Short Story for FREE

The latest installment in the “Things Every Good Woman Should Know” series is on deck. You can get it for FREE on Amazon.com on Friday, June 7th and Saturday, June 8th. After that it will only be 99 cents.

Sex Is More Than Cover

Story Summary:

Leigh finds her emotional, mental, and physical health threatened after a one night stand with an incredibly handsome man. Read how she learned the hard way that sex is a responsibility and should be treated as such as she recounts her life-altering tale.

Download it now

Reader Comment About: “Sex Is More Than Just Sex”
That was wonderful!!  The emotional damage premarital sex can cause hasn’t been addressed in an honest and open way like this since Juanita Bynum’s “No More Sheets”. This would be a great intro to another book. –Esther Crain-Holden

Would You Like A FREE Book

someday series2I’m giving away one book to three lucky readers on Memorial Day. In order to qualify for this random selection process all you have to do is sign up to receive my e-newsletter. If you’re already on the list you’re good! If not, sign up here. You will be able to receive all the latest news concerning my books, new releases, appearances and more give aways!

I will announce the winners on Tuesday via email blast. If you win, you will be able to select one book from the Someday trilogy (“Someday”, “Someday, Too,” and Forever and a Day”) for your reading enjoyment!

Thank you to my book give away sponsor Chose-N-Ones Entertainment and DJ Service.

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Rainy Day Inspiration

woman in rainI don’t write poetry often but I was inspired by the rain beating against my window this morning. Enjoy!

STROLL

I took a stroll in the rain today

I wanted to feel the tears of God cascade down my body as I shed my own

I needed Him to wash away the pain I felt because of the things that man said and did to me

The lies

The empty promises

Meaningful words like future, love, mine that he threw about so carelessly

I took a stroll in the rain today

The cold wetness didn’t compare to the chill I felt when I realized that I was alone yet again

Alone isn’t so bad but lonely is torture

Starting over is the last thing I want to do

I took a stroll in the rain today

My heart hummed a song

The rain as it hit the ground kept time

The cars whizzing by were my off key band

My feet as they trudged along added timbre

My song was sad with a twinge of hope

No one heard it but me and God

I took a stroll in the rain today so I could ask God a question

Why?

He said you always pray and ask me to remove the men from your life who aren’t right for you

Then when I do you cry

Why?

I took a stroll in the rain today

To feel God’s embrace as He kept me safe

Have you seen my latest television interview on Fox 13 News Good Morning Memphis. Check it out here.

Watch Me on Friday, Fellowship With Me on Saturday

IMG_0555Spring is in the air, and I am ready to mix and mingle with readers! Come one, come all to the screen on your television and view me as I do an interview on local Fox affiliate WHBQ-TV (Channel 13 in Memphis, TN) this Friday, April 26th. My interview is scheduled to air at 9:20 am. I’ll be talking about my books but especially Forever and a Day.

Then on Saturday in Memphis, TN

Books, Beauty, and Historic Beale Street will masterfully collide on Saturday, April 27th when inspirational romance author Jae Henderson visits Kingdom Kreations DaySpa and Salon during a special Meet and Greet the Author Mix and Mingle from 1 p.m. to 4 p.m. The public is invited to partake in delicious refreshments, beauty specials, and entertaining book banter with one of Memphis’s very own and the author of the amazing Christian trilogy “Someday,” “Someday, Too” and “Forever and a Day”. Kingdom Kreations is located at 203 Beale St., Ste. 201, above Alfred’s Restaurant. For more information, call Kingdom Kreations at 901.590.2136.

Thank you to Kingdom Kreations and the owner, Stephanie Brown for this opportunity. What I LOVE about this event is that there are service specials being offered as well. Who doesn’t love a good book and a discount. ALL THREE OF MY BOOKS WILL BE AVAILABLE.

$5 Shellac Polish Only
$5 Mini Eye Makeup Application
$5 Brow Work

Find all the information on the Facebook Invite.

I hope you can make it. Smooches!

To My Book Clubs: Sorry It Took So Long!

Jae and LaptopThe Forever and a Day Book Club Discussion Guide is now available! I must sincerely apologize for taking so long to put it up. My life has been a whirlwind the  last few months. In addition to great questions to help fuel your discussion, I put in a special interview with the author (That’s me!)  to answer those burning questions like, “Is this really the end of the Someday series?”  I even let you guys know what the title of my next book is! Check it out! I am available for book club discussions in person, via phone and or Skype.

Let’s chat!

Forever and a Day Discussion Guide